It’s all about being in your 20’s …?
It’s those moments when you question if what you are doing is a good choice or if you will just regret it later.
Luckily for those of us in our 20’s we have SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES. More than most people might think. So many options are given to us every day and we have to decide whether we want to take them or not.
That was me last week when I quit my one of two jobs. It was a dreadful amount of hours (35) on top of my studies and another job I am doing. I don’t regret it.At first I did. I felt so old I had to wear a suit and was going to do marketing. I am 21 and I often have the feeling of wanting to be on top of the world, yet I am in the city and I am what most people would call
DIRT POOR COLLEGE STUDENT. Walking around in a suit and doing awesome networking jobs before class was a dream, but not really reality. As much as I wanted to make it reality it wasn’t and that is alright.
In the meantime I have been trying to come to terms with being a DIRT POOR COLLEGE STUDENT. I am actually really starting to like it. I used to hate it.
Anyways, We also have those opportunities with selective partners we choose (or whom choose us..) I went out with a guy last night. ( I should mention I study in Paris, so this is a Parisian guy… gotta love language barriers…) Well how should I put this. My banker gave me his number. You might be looking down at me, but it happened. I texted, because well, that is me. We ended up getting drinks the other night. Anyways drinks led to my place. oops. I am not a whore so it is even odd I let him up I rarely do that. But everything has been so difficult and these past couple days I have really come to terms with being what I am and not having more and being patient for what can come later in my life. So I really didn’t care that this older hot Parisian guy that actually works a real job in Paris was going to see my CHAMBRE DE BONNE (YESSSS maids rooms, it’s a bloody small room).
So on the night went and things happened, but one of those bloody moments came up in my head. And I kept thinking about that dumb angel next to your head in the movies. I couldn’t get it out of my head. So I stopped things before progressions happened. No music ce soir, s’il vous plaît. So that ended quickly, which is alright.
What I have learned through both of these experiences (and MANY others that I have had) is that you always have to go with your gut feeling. If something feels wrong, don’t do it. Don’t even think about making excuses, just go. Just get out of there. And if you regret it later, try and get it back, and if not, then GOOD. The next day after any job, boy, opportunity, anything really, happens.. I just feel so good when I follow my instinct. Even if it is upsetting. It feels great, like you have NO MONEY, have NOT finished your degree yet, NOT A PERFECT JOB, and are still figuring out friends, EVERYTHING is confusing, BBBUUUTTT you had your own power to make a decision.
I just blare Michael Buble : I just haven’t met you yet, and feel amazing, like better things are to come.
I have done a lot of smart things and a lot of stupid things so far in my 20’s. It is all so exciting, sometimes even when you make a stupid or regretful decision. Because you can really only do these things in your 20’s and get away with it. If you make stupid mistakes do it before all your friends (and you) are married and everything gets boring. It really is all about the opportunities of which you take or turn down, the experiences, memories, making it through EVERY difficult time, etc etc.
Bottom LINE. You are in your 20’s?
You are human? You want opportunities? You want to have fun? You want to make mistakes? You want to have some of the best experiences ever? DO IT. DO IT ALL. But put yourself out there, meet people. Go to a group meetup alone, and meet people. Stop being so goddamn shy and do it. Enjoy your alone times. Find reasons to love you every day and above all try to be happy every day.